One of the first things I ask a new client is about their goals. Why are they seeking my help? The majority of the time, it’s because they are unhappy with their body. They want to lose fat. Tone up.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to change the appearance of your body, but honestly, I’m just kinda over it. Over the talk of wanting thinner thighs or less jiggly arms. Let me ask you, if you had those things, would you be happier? My guess is there would just be something else on the list to “fix”.
I repeat, there is nothing wrong with wanting to change your body…but we can’t allow our sense of happiness, worth, self-love to be based on how our body looks.
It’s sad and frustrating to see women burning themselves out in the gym to achieve a certain physique. Pushing beyond their energy levels or restricting calories, actually causing more harm than good, in the attempt to get a 6 pack. Listen, I’m not saying you should 100% love your body as it is at this very moment (that’s a much larger topic for another blog and something that takes constant practice) or never work hard in the gym. It means we need to change the conversation from losing weight to gaining strength. From getting thinner to gaining more confidence in the gym.
I want women to shift their focus from how their bodies look to what their bodies are capable of. And more importantly to honor their bodies and listen to what their bodies need, not what they’re told they need.
I get it, we all grew up being told to exercise more and eat less. Diet companies convince us on the daily that we need to lose weight to be healthy. We are bombarded with images everyday (that have been photo shopped btw) of what we think are “perfect” bodies. F$ck! It’s no wonder we’re constantly focused on how unhappy we are with the way our bodies look.
But can we just stop caring about it? Can we just stop trying to change our bodies to the detriment of our health. Can we shift our focus to something other than our thighs and abs? Like seeing what are bodies are capable of doing. To invest in our careers, hobbies, or interests. Learn to slow down and just breathe. Appreciate all the little things that bring us joy. To take up more space. To let go of All. This. Bullshit.
Rant over. Happy Friday.